Myrtle Beach Real Estate by Mirela

I wish we were allowed to use billboards out here, but no one is allowed to.  It is just another advertising tool to make you a household name. 

How funny.

Thanks for sharing.

I've been to that last one.  Hell is up there, too.  And I'm not kidding. 

Very funny thank you! I need a laugh tonight, didn't see any billboard's but mistakes somehow always find a way to you again.

Hey my friend, you made me laugh and I needed it!  Dad's not doing so well... :-(

I am so sorry Karen!  Call me anytime you need to talk!

Mirela, those aren't your mistakes you are staring at, as you head home.  Those are people who passed by, who showed you what they were all about, and then moved on... they were a small chapter of the huge book of your life.  You should be looking at those signs with a smile on your face. You're not going home to them. :)

Sylvie:  I believe I have been unsuccessful with that part of my life, having had several failed relatinships.  I hold long term relationships in high regard.  I believe that people who have found a way to nurture a good long term relationship are smarter, more maleable, posessing traits I can only dream of having.  

There is a lot to be said on this subject.  I believe my daughter will have a good, long term relationship, in spite of my failures.  She has the right attitude about it all: virgin till marriage, put God between the two of them...  She takes it all very seriously.  I didn't.  I was in love and I threw myself in.  I have made poor choices in that regard.  I am now taking notes and learning from my daughter.  It takes that kind of dedication in order to choose wisely in the first place, put in the "due dilligence" time and marry for life. 

I am not going to sugar coat my own failures.  I am going to call them what they are and hopefully learn from my mistakes. 

I appreciate your kind words of encouragement!  That's what girlfriends are for...

Mirela--

I believe some of us are here to learn different lessons than those that have long-term relationships.  I feel each of my past relationships were guides to help me come to a better understanding of what life is all about.  Not that I've got any more of a clue than anyone else, even with all this experience/guidance!  ;-) 

I would love to grow old and learn life lessons with the man I have been with for the last 3.5 years.  We have our challenges, we keep bumping up against stuff.  We keep working-- which I know some long term couples do.  Then there are the other long-term couples that have just thrown in the towel, hate their spouses but are afraid to leave and face all the other challenges out there, besides a non-functional, unhappy marriage.  Better the devil you know than the devil you don't was a line my grandmother used to use...

Look around, how many couples do you know that have been together a long time and still treat each other with love and respect??  It may be different where you are, but here, and a lot of the places I've been, there are so few long term couples that could really be called happy.  I find it sad actually.  All those days that turn into years of: frustration, anger, unhappiness.  Unfulfilled, sad lives that harbor resentment, that never get to experience the joy of life.

Sometimes we can't see the lessons the people who have come into our lives have brought until many, many years down the road.  You can learn from your "mistakes" as you call them, but appreciate the people who have been in your life for the teachers that they are.

It sounds like you are really ready for a long term relationsip, I wish you all the luck in the world in making that happen!

LOL great signs.  Sorry about seeing the bad parts of your past so frequently!

I love how you combined your love of humor with your passion for deep reflection on lifes bumps in the road!

Cute collection, I like the one with the catchup and mustard, bet the wait staff enjoyed cleaning that up!

I didn't take this picture but I think I saw this somewhere near Amarillo.  How about this one?

Just makes me glad I'm a vegan!!!

Mirela, I think you're being way too hard on yourself.  Remember that those are not just YOUR failed relationships.  It takes two.  You can be doing everything right, but if the other person isn't, then it's going to fail (or vice versa).

You start out by liking and/or loving something about the person, and you get to know them better and they are usually on their best behaviour when you're with them (and vice versa, again).  You really only start to get to know someone when you live with them.  Again, everyone may be doing everything right, but it just takes ONE very bad behaviour to ruin it all. 

Give yourself a break. You're a great person.  You have great qualities.  You have raised children that seem to have great values.  They learned that from you.  You're their mirror. 

I know ... I know ... I beat myself up all the time too, I have lots of faults ... I wish I was a better person, etc..... BUT I've come to realize (better late than never), that no matter how hard I try and no matter what I do, if my friends or lovers or even clients - if we don't have the same values and the same goals (and the same integrity, etc.), it isn't going to work... and THAT is out of my control and not my fault. 

I've always wondered what it would be like to be in a long-term relationship. Then again, I'm somewhat curious as to what short-term relationships are like. It's been so long, I can't quite remember.

I take that back....

I dated someone 8 years ago...we decided to be friends (and great friends we are).

Though I have sent out a few blue roses here and there over the years, I do feel that one day, I will be calling in that order of 108 (red)...with a little luck.

Until then, I live life like there's no tomorrow: 

Travel biz on Friday...Car show on Saturday...Doctor's weigh-in on Wednesday (I bet I lost 4 more pounds!!!)...trip to Cleawater Beach in 5 days...to the mountains on the 12th...back home to remodel my Bedroom...a little real estate here...a little there....a sister's birthday party...back to Florida...a little travel biz here and there...MY BIRTHDAY...Football starts....

I'm so busy having fun, sometimes I forget I'm miserable.

:)

Having a life can certainly make for good distraction!  Chris, I wish you all the luck in finding the one to send red roses to!

Thanks, pal!

I guess it's a "sign" of better things to come for you.  Thanks for the post - Funny!

Mirela:

I think we need to look at these relationships a little more optimistically (all puns intended). They truly would have been "mistakes" if you had not recognized they weren't right (even if it wasn't you doing the recognizing). The mistake would have been staying in relationships where one side wasn't willing to fight for the health of the relationship.

Or . . .think of those relationships as practice. Tamara makes an excellent point: some people's life path does not include one long term relationship. We were designed to touch many lives and when they learn what they need from us, they rightfully move along.

It doesn't make it any easier or lessen the loneliness but it should minimize the self blame. You can "do everything right" and still, they move on.

What I love about you, though, is that you do take is an opportunity for self growth and you keep yourself accountable for the parts that are your responsibility.

The one lesson I think you SHOULD take from the billboards. . . date less high profile men. LOL. First date question, "Now do you see yourself advertising your business on a billboard?"

"Yes?" Your answer, "Next?" LOL

The signs were priceless! I especially loved the handicapped sign. They all need to carry that caveat.

Lisa

I was about to post another sign montage but now I'll have to wait a few days so people don't think I stole the idea from you. Have yourself a great little holiday. I'm up in the cool Colorado mountains and will be enjoying life. Going to see Leon Russell tonight. Life is good and so am I. (and so are YOU).

Mirela, these were just too, too funny! Thanks for the good laughs.

Gene:  Please, don't let this blog stop you!  I LOVE your funny blogs!  This was posted a long time ago.  Now it's your turn!  Don't forget to post it on the Optimist board.

By the way, have you checked out the TravelingRainers board?  You, my man, are the STAR there, with, count them, FOUR featured blogs!  Yup, they were all THAT good!

Lisa:  Thank you!  I'm glad you liked them!

Lisa:  "The one lesson I think you SHOULD take from the billboards. . . date less high profile men."  Priceless... 

Those signs were too funny!  Must be hard to see the exes on billboards around you.  Maybe you should get even, and buy a billboard advertising your business!

Carol:  I love the way you think!

I bet you could get me into a whole lot of trouble if we hung out together...

I'm oblivious to my exes or their signs, except for that evening.  Besides, I'm not too fond of billboard advertising.

I am not a big fan of billboard advertising- I would hate to have to see my enlarged face everytime i drive home or to the office!

If I am ever in Myrtle Beach, I will look you up-I love getting people in trouble!  As long as they don't end up in jail or hurting some one.....(except the exes, of course:) )

Carol:  Please do!  If you tell me ahead of time, I'll find you a great deal on an oceanfront condo to rent. 

Repeat after me:  Alcohol is good!  Driving on alcohol courage: BAD!!!

TAXI!

Mirela- Adn: Teenaged boys and alcohol and driving- REALLY BAD!

Don't anticipate any trips at the moment, but ya never know

Carol:  You're not kidding! 

I put my son through so many hoops before I allowed him to finally drive at the age of 17, two years after he was allowed to by law.  I had him take driver's training, more driver's training, then took him to the BMW school in Greer for the final indoctrination.  I highly recommend it to any parent; the BMW school gave him such extraordinary driving skills and respect for the power of the vehicle and the responsibility of driving. 

I've watched too many parents's hearts get ripped out of their chests by losing their teenagers to driving accidents.  My daughter is not allowed to ride with any teenage drivers and she is going to the BMW school next.

Carol, good point!

California has a provisional license- for the first year, they are not allowed to drive with any passengers under age 25 in the car.  It is a hard one for the kids, because they all think they are invulnerable, but the law is the law, and now I am not the bad guy, the government is!  We've been lucky, no accidents with the kids.  (Just me, but that is another story.)

Hello Mirela - Seeing your ex-es up there- larger than life! Yuck! I would probably take a different road!! LOL I love the signs you included. I can't find the picture , but my husband and I had a fun time posing by the "YELLVILLE" sign in Arkansas! !! 

The right one's out there somewhere, Mirela.  Those who fail to study history are doomed to repeat it. (Someone famous supposedly said that, not me.)  The billboards give you a good reminder of what NOT to do.

Carol, I try real hard not to be disagreeable here but your comment about the government being the bad guy kinda sticks in my craw.   I guess I've just seen too many occasions where the parent didn't want to be a parent and wanted someone else to step in and be responsible.  "Look honey, it's not me, it's the government that says you can't drive."

Parents need to be parents, not friends.  Glad to see Mirela took good care of her kids making sure they knew what they were doing.  To bad more didn't!!

Thanks for the laugh, Mirela.  I loved those signs -especially the "back toward your behind".

I think I will use my billboard as my new signature

Thanks for the idea Mirela ;)

...or maybe not...

Now I have to look up delete post in the FAQ