Myrtle Beach Real Estate by Mirela

You Can’t B.... About Your Fat A.. While Stuffing Another Twinkie in Your Mouth! The Art of Being Happy V - Being Congruous With Yourself:

 

If you weigh 300 pounds and you are comfortable, power to you!   There is a lot to be said about being "ample".   Although the media disseminates images of anorexic 13 year olds touting them as prime examples of beauty, most of us know better... 

 

As a matter of fact, what the media doesn't reveal is that to a lot of men the feminine ideal is "ample".  I used to own a lingerie store that also carried large sizes (1X, 2X, 3X).    Catering to this niche, we displayed a catalog on our main counter that used actual large size models for their lingerie.  Men used to find every excuse in the book to peruse that catalog.  If the person manning the counter wasn't careful, the catalog usually ‘walked'.  We lost so many large size catalogs that I finally came up with the brilliant idea of selling the catalog.  It became an instant best seller in our store.  Imagine that!  Big girls, now you know!  Work it, work it!

 

Anyway, back to the story!  The point is this:  if you are happy with being 300 pounds, enjoy it and carry your 300 pounds around like it was 300 pounds of female dynamite; which to many men, it is.

 

But if you are 300 pounds and keep staring at the anorexic girls in the magazines and wish you looked more like them then yourself and you lament about how fat you are while you are inserting yet another Twinkie in your mouth, then you have a problem!

 

The issue here is not your 300 pounds; the issue here is that you are incongruous with yourself!  If you like it, flaunt it!   If you don't, then start walking, jogging and changing your diet!  You can't bitch about your fat ass while stuffing another Twinkie in your mouth! 

 

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Comment balloon 22 commentsMirela Monte • January 22 2009 11:16PM

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Should I or shouldn't I post a catchy, yet ever so uncouth title? 

Posted by Mirela Monte, Myrtle Beach Real Estate (Buyers' Choice Realty) over 11 years ago

The title of your post hooked me!  I come from a family of heavy women.  I was the tiny one and wondered what the heck happened.  I never did anything different than they did.  Now that I am getting older it is harder for me to keep in shape because it doesn't come naturally any more.  However, I agree.  If you are not happy where you are then change it.  'Healthy' doesn't mean skinny.  That is really what we should be striving for any way, eh?

Posted by Melody Botting, You Deserve The Best (Broker Associate PenFed Realty) over 11 years ago

What are your thoughts on this?  How do you like the models?  If you click on the pictures it will take you to a delightful lingerie store, very tastefully done. 

Posted by Mirela Monte, Myrtle Beach Real Estate (Buyers' Choice Realty) over 11 years ago

Melody:  Absolutely!  It's time to dispel the myth of the androgynous nymphet as the aspired to ideal.  There is a lot to be said for the ample curves of a healthy woman.   Weneed to re-examine these illusions perpetuated by the glossy magazines.  Ample is the norm.  Enjoy your body!  Carry it like you are IT!  Perhaps in so doing, you'll tend to it better.  ... And yes, HEALTHY is IT!  ...In which case the Twinkie goes bye-bye anyway...

Posted by Mirela Monte, Myrtle Beach Real Estate (Buyers' Choice Realty) over 11 years ago

It is sad how the media brainwashes everyone into thinking that thin is in....And if we'd see those celebrities in person, we'd be shocked at how thin they really are....the camera adds pounds, so to look good on camera, one actually has to be underweight!

Posted by Pat Tasker, Your Milwaukee Metro Area Agent (WI) (Shorewest Realtors) over 11 years ago

Pat, very good observation!  It is trully incredible just how tiny and fragile they look in real life.  Most people have no idea that behind the glossy facade there is a very unhealthy individual teetering on internal strife...

REAL WOMEN HAVE CURVES!

Posted by Mirela Monte, Myrtle Beach Real Estate (Buyers' Choice Realty) over 11 years ago

Ok, I admit it.  I am like the fat lady with the twinkie in her mouth.  I complain about my weight, but just keep on eating and avoiding the gym.  Oh well, I guess if I really wanted to lose weight, I would!

Life si short, gals, enjoy your ice cream!

Posted by Carol Lee, Realtor - Agoura, Oak Park, Westlake CA Homes (Dilbeck Real Estate) over 11 years ago

I agree that the media hype around stars, models and weight is overwhelming and mis-leading at times. Kudos to stars like Jennifer Love-Hewett who stood up for herself to the media, letting everyone know that she is comfortable in her skin. That's how it should be.

Posted by Samantha Nichols, Massachusetts Real Estate Specialist (ERA Belsito and Associates) over 11 years ago

Carol:  I agree: enjoy it; just don't complain about it!

I wrote the blog around this analogy, but it's really more about everything in life.  If you don't like something in your life, do something about it!  If you are comfortable with it, stop complaining about it and just enjoy it!  Pretty simple recipe for being happy with yourself, don't you think?

Posted by Mirela Monte, Myrtle Beach Real Estate (Buyers' Choice Realty) over 11 years ago

I'd love to hear from the men on this subject!  Surely, the men stealing/buying the large size lingerie catalogs were not unique.  Will they fess up to it though?

Posted by Mirela Monte, Myrtle Beach Real Estate (Buyers' Choice Realty) over 11 years ago

Mirela, Mirela, Mirela----I am a guy----not going to even "think" about that question:)

Posted by Charles Buell, Seattle Home Inspector (Charles Buell Inspections Inc.) over 11 years ago

Wonderful blog Mirelaand it's really sad that some people don't accept for who we are. It's all about what's inside, our bodies are just a temple!

Posted by Robert Vegas Bob Swetz over 11 years ago

your point is so good - either be happy with yourself or make a change

Posted by Randall Sandin, 843-209-9667 - Search for Charleston SC Real Estate (Carolina One Real Estate) over 11 years ago

I am laughing so hard but totally agree with your idea that you MUST be happy with yourself! It's a shame that so many people look at a magazine and at all media that tell them to lokk a certain way! It's been awhile since I checked in and remember that I should drop in more often. Yeah I agree that inside is important but it's also nice to have something to enjoy looking at, no matter the size shape or preference!

"I used to own a lingerie store"     Now that is a nice surprise too! Have a good weekend!

Posted by Russell Lewis, Broker,CLHMS,GRI (Realty Austin, Austin Texas Real Estate) over 11 years ago

You are a VERY WISE WOMAN!  This applys to so many areas in our lives!

Posted by Lisa Wetzel, CDPE, SFR carsonvalleyland.com (RE/MAX Realty Affiliates) over 11 years ago

I grew up a skinny kid and somewhere along the way I discovered food! Not junk, I love good food, so I have to keep moving like a kid to get back to my skinny youth! Alas, it is a struggle, but I do work at it!

Posted by Caren Wallace, Portland Caren Real Estate (Premier Property Group LLC) over 11 years ago

Hi Mirela, I like the message - change if you don't like it !..

I also like: "Shake what the Good Lord gave you"!! - Nice to be comfortable in your own skin. :-)

Posted by Mary Douglas, REALTOR, Red Feather Lakes, Colorado (United Country Ponderosa Realty, Red Feather Lakes, Colorado) over 11 years ago

Confidence and the way you carry yourself is a big piece of how you may turn heads... The Twinkie comment was GREAT!

Posted by Robert Rauf (HomeBridge Financial Services (NJ)) over 11 years ago

Time to air out my brain... I'm having a grueling day and AR is my respite...

Robert:  Thank you!  I was excited when it came to me.  I liked it too, although I just could not muster the courage to spell it all out in the title.  The only time I talk like that is with my girlfriends.

Mary:  Yes, it is!  (Nice to be comfortable in your own skin).  More women should try it... 

Posted by Mirela Monte, Myrtle Beach Real Estate (Buyers' Choice Realty) over 11 years ago

To those readers who preferred to send me e-mails instead of officially commenting to this post:  Thank you!  I already knew!  YES, BIG GIRLS ARE QUITE FINE!!!  We all know that!  I wish you could share that with the rest of the readers, if even anonymously (log out and come back to the Optimist board and comment under an alias).  Just please let us hear your voice on this!  This blog is not really about that, but we need all the ammunition to refute the media perpetuated myth...

Posted by Mirela Monte, Myrtle Beach Real Estate (Buyers' Choice Realty) over 11 years ago

Aloha Mirela,

It has long been argued that the 'skinier' the ideal model of femininity becomes for a culture the greater the state of decline that culture is experiencing.

Fashion is an art form that focuses on the balance of human sexual desire and self worth. If you have self worth it doesn't matter what size you fit into. If your healthy and have a healthy appreciation for your unique contribution to the world, people notice that more than the dress size your wearing. All this contributes to a healthy sexual being who is not only accepting of themselves but comfortable with their body shape & size. Like wise emotional eating makes you less attractive because it's unhealthy. Everyone knows what size they are, those who have eating disorders do not.  

Moderation is the key, instinctually we recognise unhealthy behaviors in others and there is a big difference between being Obesse and Big. So if it's true that our obsession with weight is an indication of our cultures decline, have a twinkie, but don't cry about it, your saving us all from disaster.

Peace,

Posted by Kimo Stowell, REALTOR Associate® RS-76763 - Honolulu Hawai'i (HI Pro Realty LLC RB-21531 ) over 11 years ago

Kimo:  Beautifully articulated!  I did not know that little tid bit of information about:

It has long been argued that the 'skinier' the ideal model of femininity becomes for a culture the greater the state of decline that culture is experiencing.

That's an interesting concept.

On the island, many of the women are "ample", yet I've seen them surf on the North Shore and they are tremendous athletes. 

Mother Earth is no skinny chick; perhaps we should consider that... 

Posted by Mirela Monte, Myrtle Beach Real Estate (Buyers' Choice Realty) over 11 years ago

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